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k_leigh7692
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 and a half years and just recently, August 1st I believe, made love for the first time. We used condoms and due to our awkwardness, he didn't orgasm. Also, I've been on Levlen 28 for about 3 months now so we have a backup method of birth control. We bought condoms with spermicide and have been using them for the past 3 weeks everytime we have sex.

Ever since our first time, I've been having some burning while urinating. Lately, in the past few days, I've begun itching and the burning has continued and now I'm having lower back aches and front aches. I've had yeast infections before and one case of vaginitis last summer and I was given Diflucan and it went away. I took a Flucanzole today about an hour ago and it's helping some.

I was wondering, after researching online, if it's true what they say about the spermicide Nonoxynol-9 causing UTIs, vaginitis, yeast infections, and just all around irritation? I talked to my boyfriend about it and we've agreed to try another type of condom. Do spermicidal coated condoms offer a greater protection against pregnancy than just a normal lubricated condom or is it about the same?

I would rather try a non-spermicidal condom if that's what's causing my irritation but not at the expense of us getting pregnant. Anyone know any information?

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Also, both my boyfriend and myself were virgins at the time and are free of any STI's.
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From the symptoms you've described, it sounds like you've got yourself a UTI, possibly in conjunction with a a yeast infection or some general irritation. You'll want to get into the doctor, get properly diagnosed and get treatment for both those issues - leaving a UTI alone is not wise, as it can spread to your bladder and kidneys. In the future, to help prevent UTIs, pee before and after sex to help flush out any bacteria that may have gotten pushed into your urethra.

Per the spermicidal condoms: the amount of spermicide on a condom is not anywhere near enough to prevent pregnancy should a condom failure occur. Properly used, non-spermicidal condoms are highly effective, and using condoms in addition to birth control is even more effective - you don't need the spermicide. In addition, you're spot-on about spermicide being an irritant; it's essentially dish soap, and a very harsh substance to be putting anywhere near your genitals.

From now on, get regular, non-spermicidal condoms, and use them with plenty of water-based lubricant (like KY or Astroglide). The lube helps keep condoms from breaking, and makes things far more comfortable for both partners.

[ 08-16-2006, 12:38 PM: Message edited by: karybu ]

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Thanks so much!
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