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im really clueless about this whoel sex thing. Me and my boyfriend were messing around and from what i hear we had dry sex? If thats what it is. his boxers were on and so were my underwear but when he tried to go in it kinda hurt so i told him to stop. Does that mean we had sex because soemone told me that it hurt because ( and this is the only word i know for this) he was fixing to "pop my cherry", does that wall or w.e it is have to be broke in order to get pregnant? Im asking this because im a couple days late and im a little worried. He said he didnt cum and i think we both would have felt it if he did. But my underwear was damp so im really confused?!?! Please help, im so clueless about this.
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The hymen, when it is present -- or, as is more typical in young women who have been in puberty for a while, partial -- isn't a wall. It's a VERY thin membrane, and one which already usually has several openings in it, otherwise vaginal fluids and menses could not get through as they do.

It doesn't need to be "borken," and sparing forced or very rough intercourse, generally will not do so: it usually just wears away slowly over time. The hymen is not protection against pregnancy, in any state.

I'm guessing the hurting was from very close contact or attempted intercourse to delicate parts with layers of scratchy fabric in between you.

You're not likely to often, so you know, feel ejaculation when it occurs with a partner when his penis is in clothing or pressed against your vulva. If the layers of fabric you had on were very thin, and his penis was right on or inside your vaginal opening, pregnancy risks MAY have existed (as might have STI risks), but given you're late, you could take a pregnancy test now to find out right away, without having to freak out any more.

One more thing? if you feel clueless, take a few steps back from any sort of sex until you get the time you need to educate yourself so that you can make truly informed choices, okay?

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