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Will masturbating help when the first time you have sex? and is it true that the first time you do have sex, that you dont really feel anything? that the second time would feel better.
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Hey Pinkstarrs, not sure why that's all in bold. [Smile] Really, we'll answer if it's just in normal type.

It helps if you think of masturbation as a type of sex. Masturbation is a great way of exploring what you might enjoy sexually, and that knowledge can certainly be used when the time comes for you to have partnered sex (whether it be oral, manual, or some type of penetrative sex). It doesn't just help the first time-- lots of people continue to explore their sexuality through masturbation in conjunction with partnered sexual activity. So, yes, exploring masturbation can help you the first time you have partnered sex-- it can help you any time. [Smile]

Everybody's first time experiences of partnered sex is different. Some people might not feel much, for others it might be full of sensation. There's no way to predict how it will be for you, although if you make sure it happens with someone you trust and respect, and someone you can have fun with, and if you take all necessary precautions regarding birth control and STIs, then the experience is likely to be positive.

Have a read of this article:
First Intercourse 101-- It should cover everything. [Smile]

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Having masturbated can help when you first become sexually active because by knowing what is pleasurable to you, you will better be able to communicate with your partner about what they can do to cause you pleasure.

Beyond that, masturbation will not by any means make you more prepared to begin partnered sexual activity or make your first sexual experience any "easier"

And no, it's NOT true that you won't feel anyting you have sex. As long as you communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn't, you can BOTH receive a good amount of pleasure from it.

Just the same, if you do not communicate and do not fully prepare yourself physically (ie, being sure you are relaxed, using extra condom safe lubricant, etc.) and mentally sexual activity can be just as unenjoyable the second or third or fourth time as it was the first.

If you'd like to more, I encourage you to read some of the articles on the site to help you get a better idea of what sex is all about! These will be especially helpful:

Ready or Not? The Sex Readiness Checklist
First Intercourse 101
Safe, Sound & Sexy: A Safer Sex How-To
Sexual Response and Orgasm

The more you browse around the site and message boards, the more helpful information you might find to what really makes a sucessful, prepared and safer sexual relationship. [Smile]


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okay, thank you. that helped.
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