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My boyfriend and I have been together exclusively for seven months now, have both been tested negative for any STD/Is, and I have been on birth control consistantly for about eight months now. Since we became sexually active, we never felt the need for a condom.

But I want to try using one.

The only problem is, the very thought of wearing one makes him soft, no matter how aroused he is before. He has told e tis is because he hates the way they feel. Can I get any suggestions on how this may be helped? He's uncut if that makes any difference.

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Acually, you've not been together long enough to go without a condom and really minimize your STD risk. ST suggests that you are monogamous with a partner for 12 months with TWO clear STD screens 6 months apart to really declare each other STD-free.

uncircumcised men can use condoms just fine. most men on this earth have foreskins, and that really does not stop them from applying a rubber. it might feel nicer for him if he used a dab of water-based lube inside the ocndom. not oto much or it'll slip. but i'm willing to bet that his aversion to condoms is largely psychological (the brain has almost EVERYTHING to do with how the penis functions). he's just gotta train himself to like the condoms. and that may include trying them on and finding a brand that offers a good fit.

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