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Is it true that girls (on average) have the same sex drive as guys???

and dont you think it would help if us guys knew what turned a girl on?, cuz for some of us its realy hard!

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y'know, sex drive can be tough to measure. do you measure in terms of how often a person thinks erotic thoughts? how many minutes of a day they feel sexually aroused? how often they have partnerned sex? how often they seek sexual release? i don't know, it's tricky. some guys have low drives, some girls have high drives.

given that the population is as large as it is, i'm willing to bet (statistically), that if you picked a measure of libido, it would show that the average libidos of both men and women are normally distributed, and that the difference in population mean libido is insignificant. that means (translated from statistician speak) there's probably not much difference in overal libido. there might be if you broke it down into age groups. but that depends.

you also have to consider if there's a difference in the biological purposes men and women have to pursue sex. you can learn this from plenty of the documentaries they have on tv. if our reasons for wanting sex are different, maybe evolution has wired men and women a little differently for libido. anyway, chew on that.

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and dont you think it would help if us guys knew what turned a girl on?, cuz for some of us its realy hard!

NO, i don't. I think it would help YOU if you knew what turned one girl on. this is something you can only learn on a case by case basis. if you can't get that into your head, you're going to have a string of annoyed girlfriends who think you think all women are into the same thing. and trust me, if you ever say, "but my last girlfriend liked this," she's probably going to get pissed off. you just can't assume that there's one universal thing that's going to turn ever girl on this earth on in the same way.

you are going to have to learn to ask your partner what she likes. and you are going to have to repeat this process for every girl you have for the rest of your life. you don't always have to start from scratch, but you are going to have to learn a few new things for every new partner you get.

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