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sorry this is such short notice, but i need imidiate help. My boyfriend and I are planning on having sex tonight for our first time. I have tried doing it with my past boyfriend but it hurt so I told him to stop. Now I know sex hurts and i can handle that but i dont want something to go wrong. How much pain should I take before i tell him to stop. Because I know it will hurt no matter what. I am sure I will be aroused enough and such and he will use a condom. But how much pain should i take???? Please reply as soon as possible because i will only have access to a computer for about a 1/2 hour from now, and its 2:05 now Thank you.
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You know what?

If you have THAT tight a deadline for sex, but still have questions, you're rushing. And there is never, ever a good reason to rush.

Intercourse actually shouldn't hurt, nor should any sort of sex. Oftentimes, pain from intercourse is due to nervousness and anxiety cauing a lack of arousal, lack of preparedness, health issues. Sometimes, the first time or two with any sort of vaginal penetration, women with partial hymens may have some discomfort. But not great pain.

So, if it hurts very badly, you stop then. You talk, you dos something else, you wait until you're more aroused (or ready, possibly nother time altogether) and thus, the vaginal canal is more flexible.

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