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strawberries
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years now, I love him to death but something needs to change. my boyfriend has never been able to preform longer than 10, maybe 15 minutes in bed. I thought after 3 years of having sex with him he would be able to go longer, but thats not the case and its very frustrating because he always ends up getting off and i get left in the dust. Am i doing something wrong? what can i do to help? what can he do? by him NOT masturbating very much at all, does that havr something to do with it? please help!!!
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Heather
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Thing is, he could keep going for an hour, and you might still likely find you don't reach orgasm.

Why? Because for the most part, heterosexual intercourse in and of itself does not bring most women to orgasm. Moreover, men worrying about how long they "last" tends to contribute not only to them not lasting a whole lot, it also puts the concern in the wrong place.

Ultimately, for you to orgasm, chances are good you're going to need more than a penis anyhow. That's what hands (yours and/or his) and mouths are for. Not to mention, that if you and he are engaging in other activities which don't require an erect penis and which also, either alone or accompanied with intercourse, are more likely to bring you to orgasm, that takes a whole lot of pressure off of him and may well help him last longer during intercourse in the long run.


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