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Boys (and likely girls too) at my school seem to think that oral sex without any sort of barrier is safe. They think that using a condom is somehow "not as good". They think that swallowing is important (I know this has been the topic of many a post here, usually countered with "why aren't you using a condom?"). I've gone to my school administrators about this. They say it can't be discussed in a classroom in the yearly sex-ed because the state would forbid it on the grounds that it would promote safer-sex. For a Math project my friends collected data on this topic, and they discovered that over 60% of students have had or performed oral sex and less that 1% of those students used protection.

Where are the students getting these illusions? What should be done in response to the faculty's passiveness? This is one heck of a horror story for you guys.

I don't know if this post should go here. I wasn't quite sure as to where to put it. Anyway, it might make good material for this site.

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Actually, since 1996 in the Unites Staes there has been no federalf funding for comprehensive sex education. Therefore, if your school is accepting state funding for their sex ed curricula, they CANNOT discuss that, or else they lose those funds.

So, like it or not (and no, we certainly don't, we've addressed this issue umpteen times over the years on and off site), if that's the case, what they're saying to you is valid.

And yes, those assumptions and misconceptions about the safety of oral sex run rampant among not just teens, but adults as well. Where are they getting those ideas? Well, our last president sure didn't help, and neither do notions of "technical" virginity. You'll likely find many of your classmates feel the same way about anal sex, too.

But you know, while your faculty can't do anything, you and your fellow students likely can: you can come up with leaflet campaigns, posters, mini-rallies, you name it.

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this needs to be moved somewhere, but i'm not sure where. can someone ship it over to where it should be?

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