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SORRY to double post this but I think I need and experts advice. I am sorry I should have posted it in here before. I will never double post again.

Hey as you can tell I have a question about my boyfriend.
You see, I have been friends with my friend Jeremy for almost eight years and he is totally a friend. I mean he's the guy you talk about stupid things (like snot and farting) with and just laugh, just a guy friend. And I have to say he's not the brightest crayon in the box. Once I asked him where the pizza pan was and he said, "What's a pizza pan." He was 14 years old at that time. Needless to say he has been very sheltered by his parents. He's an only child as well. But my point is he is just a friend, and he can have some blonde moments. And he is kinda gay acting as well. Which there is nothing wrong with that I was just saying.

Well, now to my boyfriend. He as well as I can get jealous. If he goes out with a friend even with a guy friend I get jealous but I know if he were to go out with a girl (said to be friend or not) I would be VERY jealous and upset. But I don't go to high school anymore because I graduated and Jeremy is still in eleventh grade. So I don't see him much. And he's been my friend and his family has been very nice to me and fed me and bought me presents. I feel that's it's the least thing I can do is if he is bored and asks me to go out to go out with him for a few hours. I feel obligated, and I feel that that would just be rude to just cut him off after the friend he has been. I also feel I need to be around him because I think I teach him things that he doesn't know and that might help him in his life.

My boyfriend gets very jealous when I go out with Jeremy. He says that people think that Jeremy is my boyfriend when we go out which was confirmed when Jeremy and I were on the way to the mall and some guys in a car said to him that he had a nice looking girlfriend, referring to me. And my boyfriend is dead set on that no matter what guy it is, the guy will look or be in some way attracted to the girl "FRIEND". So my boyfriend gets mad and upset, that Jeremy might be looking at me or is attracted to me. And that Jeremy is doing things with me that he should be doing with me not Jeremy. So he calls my friend names, and says that maybe if he didn't act so gay he would have some friends and he wouldn't have to call on me anymore to go out. Or that people like Jeremy are going to be stupid and live off of his parents the rest of his life. He also slams things around and looks almost if he is going to cry. He said, "You know I don't like that and you did it anyway." But he goes out places with school, ROTC, his family, and church. Way more than I get out. So it's kinda not fair that he gets to go out so much and when I go out he gets furious about it.

True I would get sad and upset if he went out with someone and would want to be out with him instead of those people but I don't call those people he goes out with names or anything.

Why does he get so upset? Why is he SO protective (even though I am the same way)? Is it true that boys that are friends with girls are attracted to them in some way? What should we do about our jealously? And what should I tell my boyfriend about my relationship with Jeremy? I mean unless the "Jeremy's attracted to me thing" is true how do I say HEY he's just my friend and no more?

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Seriously, there's just no need for this. Ask ST is for quick questions (Is it too late to get the morning after pill? Does X have a pregnancy risk?), and besides, the 'experts' aren't limited to only one area of the boards. Actually, the person who specialises in this sort of advice tends to be mostly in Relationships, which is where this post should be moved shortly.

Milke, with an L, Mrs BD to you, RATS, TMNTP, MF, CWCD, WAOTA

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