I know I have posted 3 posts already but I think this is a great outlet and a great idea (scarleteen.
I have 2 questions first being sex drive:
1) I lost my virginity to my girlfriend some 10 months ago (she has had 2 partners before me) and we are pretty far into our relationship (sexually and emotionally). I am her longest lasting boyfriend which is good but as of recently she simply does not initiate sex anymore. I mean this was seriously out of nowhere. At first I thought I did somethign wrong... then I thougt I wasn't pleasing her anymore... then I thought she was getting it somewhere else (not necessarily cheating (hmm) but maybe masturbating?)!!! So she told me that one of her friends told her somethign like about God and how if she is struggling with her relationship with God than she should be doing other things besides having sex with me (so sad)... and I COMPLETELY understand... but... ok I don't know wher eI am going with that but thats that! I DONT KNOW! but do you see the IRONY! I lost my virginity to her and now the roles have changed... NO WOMAN is obligated to have sex and I want to make that clear because that is not what I am implying... ok anyway question 2 even though this wasn't even a question just a vent...
2) I know this is a problem for a lot of women but my girlfriend just simply wont let me down there... she is very self-conscious. I do not pressure her but I would love to preform oral sex on her... is there anyway to make her feel a little more comfortable? I try my hardest... at least she can lay naked (sometimes) wihtout squirming (PROGRESS) but still...
No, I don't see the irony. If she doesn't want to have sex, for whatever reason, that's a valid choice, and if you care abouth er, you need to respect that. And if she's uninterested in intercourse because she believes it interferes with her spirituality, why try to persuade her to have other forms of sex? That doesn't seem quite right.
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