I've just started getting sexual with my boyfriend. We had sex for the first time a few days ago, before that, I was a virgin. We used a new condom, we even went over the checklist on here together, so all that's good, we're both pretty conscious of health issues. The thing is, I want to start on birth control pills as soon as possible, but I don't want to have to ask my mom for them. I'm 17, and last I checked that means I can request perscriptions on my own. But would I still have to go through my family's doctor? I don't know if he would tell my parents, or request that he speak to them. And how much would it cost me to get birth control pills, on my own, if thats even possible? I know certain medical things are covered by our health insurance/HMO (I'm fuzzy on the finer points of that) but I don't know if birth control would be.
I'd just like to get on the pill quickly without having to deal with the drama that might arise if I "consult" with my mom first. My dad has been having lots of health problems lately and the last thing I need is to get into a big stress fit with my mom over the fact that I'm having sex. Basically I just want to reduce stress on all fronts, and I really, really want to be on the pill! It makes me nervous just using condoms alone, even though we've only had sex once.
good onya for being so responsible! it sounds like you're doing a great job looking after the sexual health of yourself and your partner.
the thing to do, which i'm sure you realize, is of course to see a gynecologist. you need to do that anyway, especially now that you're sexually active. for more info about that, check out your first gynecologist visit. it's really such a huge not-big-deal. you need to have an exam if you want to go on the pill.
the best thing to do is to let your parents know. it might not be as big of a deal as you think it is, and there are certainly worse things - like, for example, telling your mom you're pregnant when she didn't even know you were sexually active. also, around here we recommend that girls see a GYN when they begin to menstruate; talking to your mom about going is unlikely to start world war III.
if you don't want to go through your family doctor, you could go through planned parenthood or another clinic. they generally have sliding payment scales, and birth control pills should be very affordable. it should be covered by your HMO, but it might not be, and if it is, it might be stated in a way that your parents would see it. the only way to know is to call and ask.
best of luck, dear. :-D
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