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ok here's my problem...i have been going out with my b/f for almost two years now. we have grown together, and matured together and he's my best friend. just recently we began having intercourse. we are both 17 years old. in no way did i feel pressured, we both talked about taking that step together and we were both ready at the time we decided to do so. through our whole relationship we took things slowly, and both learned things about each other each step of the way. me and my stepmother are really close. i told her that i was ready to have sex with my bf and after the fact i told her that we did so. soon after i went to the gyno and soon i will be going on birth control, when it comes time for me to start it. now here's where it starts getting um scary i guess. just yesterday me and my bf engaged in intercourse. i knew it would've been best to wait until i started on the pill, but as foolish as this is i thought that one more time wouldn't hurt. i wasn't thinking, "oh i can't wait i need it now" no not at all...we both wanted to do it yesterday. well the condom broke. he ejacualted inside of me w/o a condom protecting me. i didn't know what to do, but i remembered reading in a magazine about how much easier it is to get the morning after pill, at first i didn't know what to think, but then i read on how it prevents a pregnancy and in now way is it a way of abortion because there's nothing to abort. i immediately went online for local woman centers, then looked in the phonebook under clinics, and i found one about 5 mins away. i called them up, with my bf standing by holding my hand, and i asked about morning after pills. they told me i had to come down so i could fill out some papers and they could see me. my bf sat down next to me, offered to help fill out some forms so i could get in there and calm my worrying. finally it was time for me to go in. my bf blew me a kiss and i was on my own. i started crying knowing the huge mistake i made and i was so scared knowing there's still a percentage that this won't work. the doc did a pregancy test on me, making sure i wasn't already pregnant, and i wasn't. after asking me some questions and calming me down, she told me about plan b. she said it a very very good chance it will be effective and i shouldn't have anything to worry about. she made another appt for me when they will do pregnanct tests on me, but if i get my period before i won't have to attend. the secretary than filled up a paper bag with condoms and gave them to us with a smile and we both chuckled a little, knowing it won't be until i'm on the pill that we wouldn't be having sex. well this morning, right before taking the second and last pill of plan b, my stepmother asked me where i went yesterday. i was reluctant to tell her, but i knew it was better if i did. after telling me how immature we both acted and how we should of acted, she rose my worriedness of plan b not working and me being pregnant. well now i have some questions after knowing my whole sitaution...exactly how effective is plan b? i mean is there a very good chance i'm pregnant??? also when i was filling out the paper work at the clinic they asked some questions about being sexually abused...why do they need to know that? i have been by my mother's old bf before, and my bf knows about it and repects it and that's another reason why we took things so slow, but why do they need to know that? also, will the fact that i took this plan b effect the pregnancy pills i'll be going on? and i also read somewhere that plan b (And others) can help cause tubel pregnation (i think that's the way to say it) later on in that true and if so what are the chances? i am just so worried right now, but at the same time i am so lucky and happy to have a bf who stood by my side like that...and by bf i don't just mean boyfriend i mean best friend to, and i'm relieved that i told my stepmother even though she is upset with me or at the fact that i did so. can you please answer my questions??? thankyou so much for your time!

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Sorry that you had to go through a traumatic experience like that. First of all, emergency contraception such as Plan B is very effective--it lowers your pregnancy risk by 92%. Taking EC does not have adverse long time effects.

For more information about Plan B, please take the time to read through this page:

So all you can really do now is wait until your next period comes to make sure that you aren't pregnant, or take a home pregnancy test 10 days from now. Also, the clinic asked you about past sexual abuse because they need to know your complete sexual history in order to treat you. It's important for the clinic to know how many partners you've had, etc, so they can assess your risk for STDs and such.

What can you do to make sure that you won't have to get EC again? Are you using the condom properly with lots of lube? Was the condom good quality (we prefer non-Trojan brands, such as Durex) and not stored in a wallet?
A Simple Condom Primer
Safe, Sound & Sexy – A Safer Sex How-To

Also, since the people at the clinic seemed to be very helpful and accomodating, it's time for you and your partner to go get tested for STDs.
Testing, Testing…

Make sure that you understand the pill completely by asking your physician lots of questions about it, and you can also read through the FAQs at ST.

Good luck!

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