I fell into another trap with one of my best friends. He was supposed to be fingering me but he went inside of me without protection.I am very nervous of pregnancy. We are or were both virgins. I still consider myself as one. But I a'm so mad at him. That is the second boy that it happend to. What do I do to keep our friendships as they were. Or without sexual activity.
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Well, first of all, if it's been less than 72 hours, you can still seek emergency contraception...so get yourself to your doctor, or a clinic ASAP. And if it's been more than that, then you should call your doctor/clinic anyway because you'll need STD testing (and a pregnancy test) since you've had unprotected contact.
Honey, it sounds like you need to have some very serious discussions with your friends here. Your body belongs to you, and it's both your right and your responsibility to dictate what does and does not happen to it. If you want to have a sexual relationship with your friends, that's your decision. However, you still have to lay down rules about what is and is not acceptable sexually. If manual sex is ok with you, but another form isn't, then you need to lay that right out on the table. Point blank, state it before anything ever starts. And make him/her understand that if that line is crossed, the encounter is over. No do-overs, no second chances...one strike and you're out. And your partner should respect your boundries. Lay down the rules about safer sex practices too..."no glove, no love". It just sounds like it's time for you to step up to the plate and take control here, sweetie.
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