I'm considering going to a GYN for the first time soon, I have never had sex, but my boyfriend has recently started "fingering" me [or manual sex]. I think In the near future I will become more sexually active, and I've also had my period for almost 2 years now, so I thought it might be a good idea to go to a GYN soon.
But, My question is, can I call my family doctor and ask for a referral to a Gynecologist without my mom knowing? And could I go to the appointment without my mom knowing?
I know I should tell my mom if I would like to see a GYN, but she [and my dad] will assume that I'm having sex and such,and that's not the case at all, I would just like to get checked out, but I know thye would assume I'm having sex because they already ahve a problem with my 17 yr old boyfriend that they think I'm having sex with.
So could this be possible to call my family doc. and make an appointment with a GYN, even though I am only 14??
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you could go see the gynecologist without your parents knowing. however, don't expect it to be covered on your parent's insurance. and frankly, if you're going to a regular clinic, you're going to want to use your insurance (assuming you have it). doctor visits at a regular clinic (by that, i mean a private practice, not a place like planned parenthood) can run a lot pricier than PP.
I paid $36 for a pelvic exam and a STD screen at my student health center, and that was already discounted.
I would advise you to not assume your mom's gonna assume you're sexually active. Sit down with her and tell her you want to look after your health and that you feel a trip to the gynecologist would be a great idea. then, next time you visit your doctor, you, your doc and your mom should all sit down and discuss a referral to a gynecologist (although a general practitioner can usually give you a pelvic exam just fine).
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Being from Ontario and having been through all the insane BS it takes to get a gyn, i would suggest you just get a pelvic exam and PAP test through your regular doctor.
I tried for many years to get a referal to see a gynocologist and got no where w/ it. Doctors only give referals if you're having problems that they feel they can't deal w/, and you should be seeing a specialist for. OHIP covers these GYN appointments, so i'm guessing they don't want to be spending more money on sending you to a specialist if they don't have to.
As Gummy said tho, you really should be honest w/ your mother. I was really scared when my first appointment rolled around, and it was nice to have someone (it was my bf at the time) to talk to me and hold my hand through it, (now i'm a pro and can do it myself )
Whether you see your regular doctor or a gyn, this article should be of some help to you
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