I have been dating my 22 year old bf for 4 months now and I still have made no attempt to go down HIS pants . Whenever we are fooling around , mid way I get stressed out and Im not sure why . He feels me up , and gives me oral , but I havent done much back . Im 18 and this stuff is all new to me so it makes me feel really incapable and akward because I have no experince doing this stuff . And as ridiculous as this may sound I think Im afraid of his penis lol . Anyways , if anyone can give me some advice it would be soooo apreciated . I really want to please my bf , not because I feel I owe it , but because I want to , but I really need some help getting over this stupid phobia .
While we at Scarleteen cannot give advice about technique (it is in the guidelines you agreed to) we can tell you that one of the most important things you will use in your sexual relationships is *communication* There's no tried and true technique because everyone is different, and likes different things during sex.
Talk to your boyfriend, and he'll be more than happy to let you in on what he likes
Also, remember, if you are uncomfortable with any sexual activity (such as oral sex, which you've suggested here) there's no time limit you're trying to beat. Just wait until you're ready, and everything will work itself out.
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