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There is this girl I know from church, "Michelle." She is about 15, and she is sorta mentally slow. Michelle comes from a very religous family, where pre-marital sex is forbidden.

Well, I am a cashier, and last night, her boyfriend came through my line and bought condoms (he didn't know I knew her). She was waiting for him in another line, and when she saw me, she totally flipped out and ran off because I had just found out they were having sex.

Now I am in a though situation, should I tell Michelle's mom? I am 19, and should I be mature and tell her mom? I know it is none of my business, but like I previously said, Michelle is not the smartest thing in the world. She is mentally slow. I am afraid she is going to get pregnant and there is no way this girl could handle a baby.

I don't want to get Michelle in any trouble at all. It has nothing to do with that. I am just seriously concerned for her. I know it is none of my business, but then again, I would feel so terrible if Michelle did happen to get pregnant.

It is not my business at all, so should I just keep my mouth shut?

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If you want a variety of opinions, this topic would be more appropriate in another forum, as only advocates and sexperts can answer here.

That said, my opinion is that you should talk to Michelle first before telling her parents. The fact that her boyfriend was buying condoms shows that one or both of them is taking some responsibility for birth control and STI prevention. You might even direct them both to Scarleteen for information. Being "slow" doesn't mean that Michelle can't make her own sexual choices, and she has a right to understand her options just like anyone else.

There could be legal considerations as well, if Michelle's boyfriend is 18 or older. You don't say where you live, so check for the laws in your state.

[This message has been edited by Lady Moonlight (edited 05-24-2002).]

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I'll toss this on over to Parents, Adults, and Teens so that you can get more opinions.

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