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k, here's the deal. my boyfriend and i are both virgins and have tried to have sex twice. the problem is that both times he could pnly get semi-hard. does that mean there's something wrong with me? i'm totally confused. and one other thing..he did get about half of his penis inside me a few times, does this mean i am or am not a virgin still? arggh...sorry i probably sound really stupid, but im confused.
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"Virginity" is a subjective term that varies from person to person, and at Scarleteen, we don't care to use it very often. Here's why: Magical Cups, Bloody Brides

Nothing is wrong with you. He is probably nervous, and that's why he didn't get a full erection. Sex isn't a race, so you two just be patient and things should work out.

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No, nothing is wrong with you - or him. If you do a quick search you'll see that trouble maintaining an erection is a common problem especially with young and nervous males.

As far as virginity is concerned that isn't a term we really use much around here. Magical Cups, Bloody Brides will explain why.

A few articles to help make next time a little more successful:
Ready or Not?
First Intercourse 101
Safe, Sound & Sexy A Safer Sex How-To
Sexual Response and Orgasm
Margaret Sangers Disneyland - An easy chart of your birth control options
A Simple Condom Primer

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