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me and my boyfriend were talking about rape (for some reason), and he told me that not only guys rape girls, but girls can rape guys too. He said that a girl could do something, so that the guy will never ever get a "boner" again. Well, I was kinda surprized, and I thought I knew how girls do that, but then he said it involves rubber bands. (?!) Now, I am totally confused. Do you think that's true?

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your boyfriend is partly right here on theory, but not exactly technique. rape is a complicated idea. anyone can rape anyone, to get right down to it; rape is, from our article Dealing with Rape:

At ANY point, during any act in which your body is violated sexually -- be it via genital or oral penetration, or more ambiguous acts such as being made to feel anothers body against your wishes, et cetera -- if you have made clear, even as simply as saying no once or pushing the other person away, that you do not wish to be sexually engaged, and have been forced, through physical force, coercion or threat to do otherwise, you have been raped. In general, if you have NOT consented to sexual activity and were forced to participate, that is rape.

so, a guy can rape a girl, and a girl can rape a guy, and any other combination of possible actions and genders can occur. and these could all be called rape.

as for rubber bands, I've never heard of such a thing and certainly couldn't figure it out based on that bit of info. if your boyfriend knows, why don't you ask him what he's talking about, and give us a little more detail on this?

~lemming, Scarleteen Advocate

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well, i never heard of anything specifically dealing with rubber bands, but as far as i know of anatomy, the only way to permanently render a penis flaccid (prevent erection from ever occuring) is to do permanent damage to the blood vessels in the penis. this would also do damage to the tissue in the penis. the tissue would fail to get blood an nutrients and would die of oxygen deprivation. so the harm would probably go way beyond just being unable to get it up.

straddle the fine line between profundity and profanity...

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