Ok, the other night, I was giving my boyfriend a handjob, and he told me that it hurts when I touch the head if it's too dry. I don't know how to help that, and I was wondering if anyone could help. Also, he wants to finger me, and I'm afraid that it will hurt, so can you tell me if it does or not? Thanks
Lubricant. Preferably a soulable, water-based brand, like KY (which we don't like very much) or Astroglide (which we do like very much). Also, we suggust that either you wear latex gloves, or he wear a condom during manual sex.
As for him performing manual sex on you, the same rules apply. He needs to wear latex gloves, just to be 100% safe -- STDs are not fun, not at all -- ask anyone who's suffered through one.
As for whether or not it will hurt... there's no formula as for whether it will or won't the first time for you. It depends on a lot of situations, a lot of which is your comfort level. If you're nervous, you tend to tense up, and with your vagina being one big, long muscular cavity, it tends to make things a lot harder to get in, and many women have complained that it makes any type of penetration painful. It's sort of a trial and error thing. Try lubricant, and remember to have him wear latex gloves.
Easy: latex gloves and lots and lots and lots of lube.
The gloves will prevent pain and abrasions from fingernails and rough skin, and the lube will prevent painful friction.
You can buy lube at most drugstores and even a lot of grocery stores. It's usually on the same isle as condoms and such. You can buy it at any age. Most of us here like Astroglide, but there are other brands such as KY that may be easier to find.
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