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Icon 9 posted      Profile for kevn     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post name is kevin. i had sex for the first time last night. It was with a really close friend, somebody that i am (or I thought i was) very comfortable with. I knew that it was just a matter of time before we had sex, as we have been very close for the last 3 months. I had fantasized about it many times, and i really thought i would be ready when the time came. Everything was going okay except when the time came, i could not get/maintain an erection. we performed oral sex on each other, but i still could not get hard. i was embarrased to say the least, but she was very sensitive and said that she was nervous too. i was able to mastubate her and myself and attain an erection/orgasm, but I am definitley scared now as I wouldn't want that to happen to me again (not being able to get an erection from her stimulating me). any help/advice would be so much appreciated!!!!!
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The best advice anybody can possibly give you is just to relax. It is not at all uncommon for either partner to become nervous the first time they have partnered sex. So basically, take a good, deep breath and let yourself have a good time (and make sure that you and your partner are being safe so that you don't have to be worried about STD transmission or pregnancy). Don't worry about it.

Here's a couple of articles to read:
Ready or Not?
First Intercourse 101
Safe, Sound & Sexy A Safer Sex How-To
Sexual Response and Orgasm
A Simple Condom Primer

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