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rob_4325
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Hi!
My girlfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time on Saturday, but I am stumped on a few questions. The other day my friend was telling me how when he was having sex, his condom split. I don`t want the same thing to happen to me. He was telling me that the condom he wore was so tight, and I know what he means. I have practised putting a condom on, and it doesn`t become any easier. I struggle to get it over my penis as it is so tight. I was using Durex Extra Safe ones too! I`m scared that the condom will break even though my girlfriend is on the pill. What should I do? Its too late and too expensive to keep buying condoms to see which ones fit especially over here in the UK. What should I do?!

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KittenGoddess
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Actually, buying and trying is pretty much what ya gotta do. I know some couples who have spent months trying different kinds of condoms in order to find one that they like. Try buying the boxes that contain just a few condoms so that you don't get stuck with a bunch of extras that you don't like. Or, if you have a condom shop near you, perhaps you can buy them individually.

Beyond that, using extra lubricant (water-based, condom-safe) will help keep the condom from breaking. Just a couple of drops inside the condom before you put it on, and then lots of extra lube on the outside, and on your partner should help.

Check out: Condom Basics

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Heather
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As a side note, sex should never, ever be4 under a stressful deadline. That just isn't a healthy approach, and it isn't siomething that needs be on a deadline in the first place.

Condoms cannot be loose, otherwise they would be ineffective, but splitting or breaking is most often due to a condom becoming dry due to a lack of lubricant, or improper use, so do check out that link Kitten gave you.

And take some time to breathe: if sex ever feels rushed or stressful, it isn't right, honey, and beyonbd not being the right time, it very rarely is enjoyable for both parties when it does feel like that, physically or emotionally.

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