That's really not something constant, it varies from person to person.
Sounds like what you're talking about, honey, is sexual arousal. And that what you're saying is that aroiund you're partner, you're continually aroused, whearas by yourself, you only feel aroused to the point of orgasm. The difference between the two is just about how you feel emotionally, and that's all perfectly okay.
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