Me and my two dearest friends are very close. The other weekend we were hanging around and we played pin the bottle. (All three of us girls). I enjoyed it... And then we played strip spin. I felt like we all enjoyed it. I like girls, (I would never date them. Were just close friends.) I do enjoy guys, however. But I don't find the appearance of a dick hot. I like the feeling, (I have never had sex. But I masturbate.) Would I be lesbian or bisexual? Because if I Still find guys attractive, just not their dick, I think I'd be bisexual...
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So if you are saying you don't like their dick , I figure it u also mean that you'll never have sex with them I would say you are lesbian but then you bring up that you are still attractive to the guys which means you'll be bi
So u just don't like what a dick looks like? Here's a few questions : Would u ever have sex with a guy ? Give a bj? Because if you would do that stuff with a guy but also are attracted and would do sexual stuff with girls , you are bi
But if you don't like anything with dick , appearance or how it feels in a vagina or think guys are gross , then your lesbian
One general point to be aware of is that not all guys have penises and not all people with penises are guys - same with vaginas/vulvas and women.
It's usually not so helpful to try to figure out orientation from what body parts you do or don't like or what sex acts you do or don't want. Orientation is about what gender of people you're attracted to. Orientation is a thing that will show itself from the pattern of someone's attractions: someone who finds their attractions are toward exclusively women or nearly exclusively women will probably figure they're lesbian, and someone whose attractions are to a selection or range of genders will probably figure they're bisexual.
Liking or not liking the look of a particular kind of genitals - like a penis - doesn't really mean anything. People often feel differently about any body part when it's on someone they're attracted to or love. We're never interacting with the body part, but with the person it belongs to.
What sex acts someone's interested in doesn't define their orientation. For example, some lesbians like insertive sex acts. If they're exclusively attracted to women, they're still lesbian! People of all orientations and genders can also choose to use things that are not a penis - toys, for example - for insertion.
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I think the sagest advice I've heard on this is to live your life and have crushes/relationships (either romantic or sexual or both) first, and then apply a label afterwards. If you decide that you're definitely a lesbian and then you fall totally head over heels for a really cute guy, then it's not going to matter much whether you're wearing the lesbian badge or the bisexual badge. (Or substitute any other combination of label + attraction not matching the label)
This is a little hypocritical of me, because I was freaking obsessed with labels when I was younger, as were most of my peers. I think I'm more zen about things now - I recently moved from identifying as bi to as pansexual, as a rejection of gender binary thing, but my favourite sexuality label by far is "wibbly-wobbly sexy-wexy".
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