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So, I have figured out that I think I'm genderfluid. Sometimes I identify as a girl, sometimes a boy, and sometimes both. One of my problems on the days where I identify as male, is that I was born female and have a really feminine body shape, particularly very curvy hips. I really have a hard time coping with that aspect of my appearance at those times. Does anyone have any advice for hiding curvy hips?
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Big pants, if that's the way you want to go. I have big hips, and I know that when I did clinical work and had to wear scrubs, because they don't stretch, I had to buy giant ones, and they basically obscured the whole bottom half of my body.

But it might also serve you well to see if you can't start changing how you think about this. A given body part looking a given way really is not something that determines or demonstrates gender. For sure, there are some cultural ways of thinking about sex and gender that suggest that, but there are a lot of cultural ways of thinking about gender that are busted, and we don't have to be on board with them if we do not want to be.

As a practical example, I have a friend who is a guy (and who identifies as one) with an intersex condition, and also has big hips. His big hips don't make him not-a-guy, just like yours don't. Know what I mean?

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