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Hi, I'm confuse whether I'm a gay or bi? E is a guy with cute babyface look and kind. I can't imagine what I did with him recently. I recently went to E house for a party and stay overnight. I was shocked the next morning when I woke up as E and I were hugging each other. We then fondling and touching each other private part and were extremely aroused. My heart beat going very fast(Not sure I'm afraid or what) but I felt excited. My curiousity could not resist from being naked and I masturbate him and so does he. I then continue to hug him(no kissing) after climax and felt so happy and warm with his body.

He told me one of his friends spotted what we did and felt embaressed as we both being doubt as gay partner. I feel bad for him but I can't stop thinking of that and hope it can happen again. I'll masturbate everytime when I thought of what I did with him.

Am I really a gay? Because sometimes I truly admire handsome / cute guy like E. Or am I bi? Because I still like girls.

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One sexual experience does not determine our sexual orientation. And sexual exploration such as mutual masturbation is actually not all that uncommon among teens of the same sex. It's all part of getting to know your body and your sexuality.

So, does the fact that you've engaged in mutual masturbation with someone of the same sex mean that you're gay? No, on it's own like that, it doesn't have to mean anything at all.

If you've also found yourself attracted to this friend, as well as other men, then it may well be that you are bisexual. But that's not something you need to decide right now, and you also don't need to label yourself at all if you don't want to.

Here's an article that may help you further:
Q is for Questioning

(PS: I like your username! [Smile] )

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I'd just like to say not to worry. It happens to alot of people. For a long time I thought I was straight. But now I'm more open, I am Bi. I love to be able to say both genders are beautiful. I'm going to be stuck with just guys who are somewhat "hot". Girls are gorgeous. And I have experimented with girls. And I love it. I can do anything with anyone.
So that answer is up to you. It depends on how you feel.

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