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So I'm a girl attending prom with a male friend, although we'll be doing a bit of a switch when it comes to what we wear. He'll be wearing a dress and I'll be wearing a tux. Now, that's all well and good with one issue....
Both of our respective sets of creators are at odds with this decision. His parents know nothing of what he plans to do, but I mentioned to my father that I was wearing a tux to my high school prom, which he disproved of. I don't doubt that I can convince him to accept me going to prom in a tux, which he disputes with the argument "You're supposed to wear a dress", but I would appreciate some advice on how to go about that.
Both of us are relatively comfortable with our genders, however this is something that is kind of important to us. Personally I don't see what the big deal is over some differing cuts of fabric.
Thanks for taking the time to answer my question, and input is appreciated!
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'Personally I don't see what the big deal is over some differing cuts of fabric.'
The problem with a lot of society is the way people were brought up to think and a lot of people have a one track mind on how things "oght' to be". The same goes for acceptance of homosexuality. Some people say 'i don't see what the big deal is over differing what sex the person i love is" but to others it still is a major problem that not everyone is able to get over.
I suggest talking to your parents in a serious manor and explaining the situation to them as best as you can. Your parents should be able to express understanding if you show how important it is to you.
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That's definitely true. I've been thinking about how to go about executing this discussion for the past week.
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You know, I altered a tuxedo for one of the proms I went to. Mind, I went to an arts school and it was the 80's in Chicago, so that wasn't seen as shocking by anyone.
But what I did, simply because that was my style and in alignment with my gender ID at the time, was alter it so it was a bit more girl-like (some darts in the jacket, a tighter pant), and I wore the jacket with an antique corset. In other words, the way I styled it was fairly femme.
Now, I don't know if that is what you want, but it's one option to think about.
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It's a little late of a response, but I'm happy to report this went quite swimmingly. Peachy, in fact.
'Course, this might have something to do with the fact that the prom was in San Francisco. Anyway, thanks for your advice!
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