I have a question that bothering me and my friend told me that scarleteen could help.
When my friends and I changing in the locker room after sport game, their flaccid penis are longer and bigger than mine. I felt ashamed when I'm changing my boxer as my penis was doubt as small as an "eraser".
People say masturbate a lot can enlarge penis and my friends rarely masturbate while I do it very often. Although I'm pleased with my 5.5 inches penis when erect but I felt neglected with my flaccid penis as my friends are larger and longer than mine. Why?
Posts: 5 | From: Austria | Registered: Aug 2009
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Masturbation won't change the size of your penis. If you are still in school, it's possible that your penis is not finished growing yet, although it's average length already. Some penises are about the same length flaccid as they are erect, while others change in size a great deal. You're perfectly normal!
Flaccid penises don't reflect how long they will be when erect, as you seem to realize (and erect penises are usually what people are measuring when they "compare" penis size). There's nothing to be ashamed about with having a "small" penis, and I'm sure your penis is not an abnormal size. The size of penises varies a lot, and no one size is better than another. Also, masturbation doesn't have an effect on overall penis size. And really, there's no practical reason for your penis to need to be bigger -- in terms of pleasure (for you or a partner) or function -- neither when it's erect nor flaccid. So it's not something to worry about, learn to love yourself!
don't get it wrong, your thing probably _will_ end up liked and wanted by some people, but it's not like we, girls (at least the ones in that thread) had an exact image of what we're searching for, and we would go around scanning everybody for that exact size etc, regardless of the person attached to it.
Penis size shouldn't matter! I know that you probably feel a lot of pressure but the way you are is the way you should be. Masturbation will not change size and neither will other methods. Your penis will function as good as the next person's.
And it's also interesting to note that guys with bigger penises can sometimes find it uncomfortable and wish theirs were smaller. It is hard to feel satisfied with our own bodies but it's important to learn to love it, as the folks above said.
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-Syndrome, "THE INCREDIBLES" Posts: 116 | From: Olympia, WA | Registered: May 2007
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From a girls point of view, it honestly doesn't matter what your penis size is. As I tell my boyfriend who feels the same way, it is all about the function; not about the size. =)
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Now that you have heard from the ladies, I will restate that not only are you perfectly normal both erect and flaccid; but, as the ladies stated, size doesn’t matter and that it is the person that does. I don’t know what is up with the link they gave you earlier but let’s try this again Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown . You will note that you still have a few years before you may know your final size range. You will also see that flaccid size not only can vary for the same person at different times but that there is also no correlation with flaccid sizes and erect sizes; so some longer flaccid sizes may not change much when erect. Why does yours seem to be smaller than your friends, many guys when they are cold or even self conscious tend to ‘retract’ and it might just be that it is what is right for you. Bottom line is that if you ‘sampled’ enough guys you would see that you are normal. With that being said and the fact that you said that you are pleased with your erect size, isn’t that all that truly matters?
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My boyfriend is like that and it doesn't change the way I see him or affect our sex life in any way. He is small when flaccid but grows a lot when he gets hard. It's actually fascinating to see, like a little surprise for me lol. The size of a flaccid penis has nothing to do with your performance so you shouldn't worry. And (although it's wrong) it's quite common for guys to tease each other about those things anyway, just ignore them. The only opinion that should matter to you is the person you will be sharing yourself with, and even then, if she doesn't like it then someone else will. Be more confident with yourself, and remember, in the end of the day, it's your personality that counts!
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A flaccid penis doesn't necessarily drastically increase in size when it's erect. Penises look different because people ARE different.
For the record, your erect penis is probably about right for a Caucasian male, but penis size really shouldn't have any bearing on how girls view you. I've had sexual partners who were above average penis size who were great, but I've also had some who weren't. Same goes for guys with small to 'normal' penis sizes. What made the great guys great wasn't the size of their penis; it was the fact that they were nice guys who clearly cared that I was enjoying myself as much as they were!
Remember also that your penis is probably the last thing your future sexual partner is going to see before deciding they like you. You seem like a nice guy, so have confidence and be yourself! That's ultimately what should attract people to you.
Posts: 7 | From: Where the grass is green and the girls are pretty | Registered: May 2011
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While I think a lot of people's comments were well-meant, some of you are making assumptions that aren't okay. Too, the original poster, Connor, hasn't commented on this thread in almost two years, so I feel like a lot of this debate isn't helpful, okay?
I want to unpack a lot of this, because we seem to be making similar incorrect assumptions. That's not something to feel bad about, but maybe we can change the way we talk about penises and their size, you know?
Speaking generally, it's not okay to assume that the "value" of a penis - a multifunctional anatomical structure - has to do primarily with sexual function, or primarily with partnered sex (especially given that Connor never mentioned any anxiety about sexual function or even mentioned partnered sex as something he was interested in).
OWL Dan, I don't think it's correct that erect size is "all that truly matters". A penis cannot be "good" or "not good", to start with, and size is certainly not a determining factor.
MissMomo, I don't think it's okay to say that an average size is "right", or to assume that a poster is Caucasian when they haven't stated that. I also don't agree that seeing someone's genitals comes before (or after) deciding whether or not one likes them as a person.
I'm not sure why you're bringing up how girls would view a penis, seeing as that's not something Connor asked about (he doesn't mention women or his sexual orientation at all). A lot of people made that same assumption that Connor was worried about "what women might think". Obviously, women's opinions on here are extremely welcome, but a few people seem to be projecting their own ideas about penises and assuming that what hypothetical women in general might think was what Connor was asking about.
Like I say, I think people were trying to be helpful with their comments, and that's obviously welcome, but as a society we tend to misstep when we're talking about penises, so I wanted to discuss how I think we're doing that.
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