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I was always kind of a "preppy girl" but I never really thought much about it; I just wanted to fit in with my friends. Then I went to college and I started to relax in terms of clothing style. In my second year, my sister started researching gender stuff for a high school graduation project she was doing, and something about what she was learning sort of clicked with me. I started learning more about gender and I realized that I didn't identify as a woman, but I'm not sure what I really identify as. I've tried out different labels, like gender variant, but none of them really seem to fit either.

And now I'm not even sure if I'm straight. In the last year-and-a-half or so I've noticed that I'm sometimes attracted to other girls (but only girls who are more androgynous or are experimenting with gender presentation).

I really want to experiment more with gender presentation, but I'm kind of scared to do that...not exactly sure why I'm scared. Sometimes I try binding, but that's about all I really feel comfortable doing.

Does any one have any suggestions or help for me?

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Well, I'm not exactly sure what you're asking for.

You certainly don't need anyone's permission or okay to explore your own gender and figure out, over time, what fits you best.

Too, sexual orientation and gender identity are separate issues: obviously, gender and orientation are related in some ways, but people who are gendernormative (which is a weird term already, since there is no one "right" or "normal" gender identity or presentation) can be and are bisexual or lesbian, as can be and are people who are not.

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