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Beppie
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This may well be one of the best things I have read all year:

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CAMBRIDGE — Two students at Central Kings Rural High School fought back against bullying recently, unleashing a sea of pink after a new student was harassed and threatened when he showed up wearing a pink shirt.

The Grade 9 student arrived for the first day of school last Wednesday and was set upon by a group of six to 10 older students who mocked him, called him a homosexual for wearing pink and threatened to beat him up.

The next day, Grade 12 students David Shepherd and Travis Price decided something had to be done about bullying.

"It’s my last year. I’ve stood around too long and I wanted to do something," said David.

They used the Internet to encourage people to wear pink and bought 75 pink tank tops for male students to wear. They handed out the shirts in the lobby before class last Friday — even the bullied student had one.

"I made sure there was a shirt for him," David said.

They also brought a pink basketball to school as well as pink material for headbands and arm bands. David and Travis figure about half the school’s 830 students wore pink.

Isn't that just the most awesome way of fighting bullies-- not with violence, but by standing alongside one who is bullied-- and, in this instance, making a great statement against homophobia into the bargain. Implicitly, it's also a statement against misogyny, given that pink is considered to be demeaning to men because it's associated with femininity.

The boys who started this campaign deserve a major pat on the back, in my opinion.

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Aw, that is the most beautifulest thing ever! I think we should all write to the newspaper that ran the story to commend the boys.

Nice observation about the misogyny issue, too. I suspect a lot of men are taught that anything considered "feminine" is demeaning. Not just that it's not their cup of tea, but that it somehow is beneath their dignity, which implies that women are/deserve to be less dignified than men.

(and the spell-checker in my browser did not pick up on "beautifulest"--should I be worried? [Wink] )

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That's brilliant! There's nothing that annoys me more than pink being associated with females, gays, and weakness--way to turn it around! I come from a line of pink-wearing Italian men, and dammit, I actually *like* pink, which people find totally incongruous with my relatively non-girly behavior. Dude! It's a color!

What a wonderful thing for high school students to do, though. Truly, truly inspiring. My high school had boy vs. girl rallies, with each side wearing their respective "colors" and hurling slurs at the other, so...this restores some of my confidence in the future. [Razz]


(That's 'cause beautifulest is a word, natch. And my spell-checker just took "natch.")

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Narwhal
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quote:
Originally posted by snail:
and dammit, I actually *like* pink, which people find totally incongruous with my relatively non-girly behavior. Dude! It's a color!

I hope it's not too much of a thread-jacking that I'm picking up on this: I've also had friends give me a bit of a hard time for wearing pink. Or strangers acting surprised when someone asks for a screwdriver and I unclip a multi-tool from my pink pants, open it up, and say "Will this work?" [Cool]

And I agree with you 100 percent: Dude! It's a color! Choosing to wear something "feminine" on a given day, or every day, or whatever, doesn't make me less of a woman! And I think it's pretty screwed up when in order to prove how strong we are, or how much we believe in equality and aren't into conforming with traditional gender roles, we're asked to adopt a role that doesn't suit us.

Bottom line: everyone should be equally free to wear pink. Or black, green, yellow, red, or whatever the heck color they like. [Roll Eyes]

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(Hey snail, Webster's just added gazillion to the dictionary this year. maybe next year it'll be beautifulest!)

And Narwhal, Code Pink certainly has your back in that respect. it's the pinkest place for strong women I can think of. [Smile]

But in all truth, I don't hear women telling other women not to wear pink. The pink issue in this case was the boys harassing the boys for wearing a color the boys deemed feminine.

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Ooh, thanks for that link, Heather! It is so beautifulest I will look at that site a gazillion times!

And yeah, I certainly didn't mean to distract from the focus of the thread. I think what those two boys did was incredibly creative, and I hope lots of other kids will follow their example and find constructive ways of standing up to bullies.

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But in all truth, I don't hear women telling other women not to wear pink.
Actually, I stopped wearing pink at around the age of 9 or 10 because of pressure from other girls-- because the colour was seen as baby-ish, rather than anything else, but I think it was a definite pre-cursor to the way that women are socialised to work against, rather than with each other, in terms of our appearance.

Of course, it's pretty clear that in the story in question, all the harrassment was males harrassing other males.

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hahaha1 My very italian roommate and I have a black and pink pinstriped suit that astonishingly fits ( and looks spiffy ) on both of us.

Buck the system, pink is awesome.

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I'll see this and raise you a province.

I saw on the local news that almost a dozen neighboring schools ran similar events, with folk dressing in pinks, not long after that dropped.

For once, I'm not ashamed of the actions of my gender. Too bad I can't pull off pink.

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I was in Ireland recently for my cousin's wedding, and I had a drink (a damn good Irish cider) with a guy named Owen. Anyway, Owen's friend brought up the fact that I was wearing a pink shirt, extracting the Michael a bit, to which this guy Owen told him, 'Dude, you don't have the balls to wear a pink shirt...'
And the fact is, it's fairly commonly accepted in the UK, and even moreso in Ireland, that wearing pink shows that you're secure in your sexuality (straight or otherwise). And it's nice to see that those who are prepared to be obnoxious about it meet opposition.

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