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pud21
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Hi every one this is my second post, in case you are wondering what i am talking about. I just have so many different feelings at the minute whether i would be ultimatly happy being physically male or not being? I keep remembering past events of when i felt and acted really girly! i don't hate it but some how im just not that person any more, it saddens me in some ways because i was sexy and attractive but then on the other hand i am now trying to express how i feel more inside. Has any one here ever been sad thinking of there female past? Or wishing they could go back to parts? Does any one still get urges to wear and like female clothes? or if you are a true FTM are you really glad to get rid of your past? I came out as a lesbian 3 years ago and took comfort and refuge in my feelings in that term of being a lesbian and now it feels like i don't even have this identity to fall back on any more like i have fallen out of a comfort zone completly. I feel very male in side but still sometimes feel female. I can't immagine dating any one again as i am worried I will become confussed and hurt someone again.

Does any one share or has any one been through and thing simular to this before?

I'd really appreciate feedback on this thankyou.

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Heather
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Can I ask if there's a reason why you feel like you have to be very binary and "pick a side?"

Because that's what it's sounding like to me.

If you're trans, you already know that the concept of binary gender/sex is something which causes very real problems for people, and which isn't something true for many.

If you know that, how about thinking about your gender identity as something where you ABSOLUTELY get to pick and choose all the aspects of what's true for you per your gender and keep whatever aspects you'd like that feel most like home for you, even if that changes from day to day?

Also, have you connected at all with some online communities specifically to offer trans support? If not, I'd be happy to toss out some links for you.

[ 01-03-2007, 01:40 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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thankyou for your reply, yes i would really appreciate those sites you have.
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Heather
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Here are some places to take a look at and see if they feel like good fits for you, pud:

• http://www.temenos.net/trans/
• http://p083.ezboard.com/bpseudochainsaw (strap-on.org)
• http://p076.ezboard.com/bbutchdykeboy5326 (butchdykeboy)
• http://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,27.0.html (FTM forum @ Susan's Place)

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Bonnie.N.Clyde
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dude, you pretty much said A LOT of stuff I feel. And I hate how open this answer sounds, but there is no "true" FtM. If you think or know you're male, then you are.

I've had so many experiences of feeling humiliated because I acted or dressed as a girl. And man, I looked nice as a girl, not to be arrogant or anything-- I don't mean like I think I'm hot, [Smile] . But I used to think that to be trans, you had to LOOK male as a female. hmm.

you have very interesting points!

and I've hurt people both male and female who dated me with my gender stuff.

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