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SCOUT
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so. i know im genderqueer. ive known for years, but now im finally ready to tell people about it. im not a girl, im no boy. something different all together. i call myself a boi. i call myself a gender****er. i call myself scout. my problem is, how do i tell this to the world? how will they take it? people ive told so far have just assumed im transgender. im not. i dont wanna be no boy. maybe i dont want my breasts, maybe they're not me. but i dont wanna be no boy. as for pronouns, i dont like "he" i dont like "she;" i like the gender neutral "zie." so how do i explain all this to people without getting into hours of debate and discussion? any tips?
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nixieGurl
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Hi there,

You could always tell people the way you just told us. Tell the people you trust first, and tell them you really dont know how to explain it, tell them you are having a hard time talking about it to people and that you dont feel comfortable debating it with them right now. If they are really invested in you, they will respect that, even if they may not totally understand.

Take your time with it, there really is no need to rush yourself with this, start small, after you have told the first few people, it will get easier to explain it as time goes on.

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