have some concerns for my friend. Shes 22, thinks she maybe bi sexual. All her life she has gone out with guys and thought guys were extremely attractive. She has had random sexual thoughts of females through out her life but never to the point where she thought she would be a lesbian or that she would go through with any of these thoughts. But not she thinks she might be bi.. Shes a huge worrier and worries about everything, and has worried her self to the point where she thinks she maybe losing interest in guys when clearly a week ago she was wanting a guy at the bar. She is always worrying and thinks she has something when she really doesnt like aka. a sickness or she thought she was pregnant over 5 times believe she had symptoms of it. Anywyas is it normal for her to have these random sexual thoughts of females at her age and does this mean she is bi or gay, can her orientation change that quickly? or is she just crazy.
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You know, there really is no 'normal'when it comes to who/what we find is attractive to us at any given time. And what we may have found was very attractive or appealing to us at one time in our lives can change a lot at another time, as we get older, meet new people and discover new things, just as it sounds like your friend is experiencing. It is completely okay and not uncommon to go through this, and it can really happen at any age. Noone can really know for sure if your friend is of any specific orientation except for your friend, and even then, it may be a while before she can figure that out for herself, and really no real need to be forcing herself to do that. One thing is for sure, she is NOT crazy, not one bit.
The best thing you can do right now, is let her be her. She will figure it out, there are always bumps along the way with these things, and it can be confusing. Remember that it is not your issue to try to work out why she is feeling the way she is, because noone can know but her.
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