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malcinator2000
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I have always been slightly femanstic, i always enjoy aromathersapy, massage poetry and classical music...or and face masks! but surely that's ok?
I know many homosexuals, but they are only as mates! and transvestites, of my age (I'm 14), they have all been beaten badly by other boyds, but they are great to talk to, and when you talk to them out of their dressed and makeup, they are perfectly hansome looking boys!
I have never been afriad to say that i think other boys look hansome, but when i comp-liment them im acused of homosexuality!
I have always acted a bit "camp", i bit kind of..."those trousers make his bum look really fit!!"...but I'm only complimentinbg his choice in clothes!

Help me out, becuase the punches hurt...but the teasing hurts more!


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logic_grrl
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Some heterosexual guys can be extremely femme/camp, just as some heterosexual women can be very butch. And yup, it's completely ok.

Unfortunately, anybody who doesn't fit the standard gender roles is likely to be accused of being gay or lesbian people, regardless of their real orientation, and suffer the same prejudice as gay or lesbian people.

However, if you do tell boys who you don't know well that they are handsome, it's not totally surprising that they may mistake it for a come-on. So you might want to be cautious with that.

If you are being bullied, I suggest you report it to the school staff and see if they can do anything about it.

You may well find that it gets better once you've left school; school can be an extremely intolerant environment for anyone who's "different" in any way, but often people get somewhat more tolerant as they mature.

And it needn't put a cramp in your style; my extremely camp best friend is currently living happily with his girlfriend .


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DiamondDog
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My boyfriend (who is completely heterosexual, I can assure you) said that he occasionally gets derogatory comments of a sexual nature thrown at him. Mind you, he is a tall, imposing guy, but because he occasionally dresses in a "metro" fashion and the fact that he is in his school's GSA, people will sometimes make comments about his sexuality. In one example of this, I love how he handled it. Someone came up to him and called him a "faggot." So instead of saying,"No I'm not," or "Shut up," he just replied, "Maybe I am."
I mean, what can you say to that?

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