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sometime i feel like i wont to be a man.
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You might find this article interesting: Boys Will Be Boys... or Not?.

A lot really depends on what "wanting to be a man" means to you, and why you feel that way. And that's something that only you can decide.

It could be that you're interested in things that are socially stereotyped as "masculine", or that you feel only men are allowed to do.

It could be that you are transgendered or transexual, identify as a man, and want to consider "transitioning" to live as a man.

Or it could be that your gender identity doesn't neatly fit into the categories of "male" or "female" - and that's fine too.

As you'll see from some of the topics in this forum (not to mention "Orientation and Identity" and "GLBT Relationships"), there are plenty of people who are questioning their gender identity or how they want to express it, or who feel that the gender society has allocated them just doesn't "fit".

So you are not alone .

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Definitely not alone. Although MTF, I can sympathize with the feelings of having the wrong body. However, it took me many years of self-exploration to come to this realization, and if you just now think you might be, or are still unsure of where your gender falls, you may want to take the time to deeply think about it, as well as read a lot.

I also suggest talking to someone. You'll find support in the most unlikely places. Mine was a History teacher I swear to God I thought I hated. Not really in any personal way, but she's a very hard grader. Still, not the first person I'd imagined that I'd recieve help from.

Basically, just don't run too far too fast. Don't do anything permanent or drastic. You may find that you just don't accept society's definition of a "woman's place" or you may find that your gender is a lot more complicated than mine. Hopefully when you find someone to talk to, they can direct you to someone who will be able to tell you where your issues really lie. But, as said, and will be said again, you are not alone.

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