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Okay, so we all know there are stereotypes concerning gender. It's a part of daily life and as hard as we work to change that it's still there.

But, what about knowing yourself as a person? Gender definitely has a lot to do with that. I am a guy, but when someone talks about the stereotypical male I think of some guy drinking beer and watching football (neither of which do I do). I've been struggling with this idea I have that being male involves a love of the outdoors and an inability to smell ones own body odor.

I dislike these stereotypes. Of course, I don't fit into the ones that I like either. The whole concept that guys are solid, anchored, I can't seem to do that because along with it come all the things I don't want to be.

Does any one else have issues getting in touch with his or her gender?

I am not who I appear to be.

Gaffer--from under the moon backstage

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There are sort of sub-categories to those stereotypes, though. A woman can be prissy, a bitch, a slut . . . okay those aren't really the nicest types, but I think you get the point.

I'd be somewhere between a geeky guy (yes, I *will* brag about the size of my speakers, and explain how networking works if you'll stand still long enough.), and a Valkyrie chick (not my description, though I guess it works), which seems a bit odd to me. So, I've definitely got some of both, but I find I generally get along better with guys, probably for exactly that reason.


I want a boy for my birthday . . .

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For me, getting in touch with my gender was really getting out of touch with the whole concept. The things I like don't generally fall into one gender or the other, so gender just isn't a useful concept in describing who I am.

Hopefully that made sense.

Sapphire Cat, a feline who can be both pink and blue...

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theres so many different types of sterotypes and generalities (i dunno if thats a word... lol) to genders. sometimes i go with that... petty, dressed a bit... revealing, and acting like i'm all that and a bag of chips attitude. lol its fun, and it maks me feel purty! i did that today actally, to school. and after not seeing me for a week and a half i noticed a few raised eyebrows to my pants lol. but i dont do that all too much... i dont really like being constantly worried about how i look... or how my hair is when it down... which involves me constantly checking myself in a little compact mirror. lol

then theres not innocent little angel i like to play a lot lol... i mean the innocent part, not really the little angel part. i dress rather conservatively most of the time, or so says me lol... compared to my friends at least. and whenever theres a sick joke or sumthing... i'll act like i have no clue at all what they mean... 1/2 the time i really dont, and the other 1/2 i just pretend i dont. i like the whole... innocent little girl thing i try to do... becuase i am pretty innocent compared to a lot of people i kno, and its kinda funny when guys dont believe it and than find out its pretty true for the most part. lol i dunno i you would consider that a sterotype, but with certain people i think it is... ...they just LOOK innocent, ya kno? lol pigtails = super inncent looking lol

i cant really think of any other sterotypes... unless u count the "dumb blonde" thing... and ironically enough i'm not dumb and i'm not blonde, but i get asked a lot as a joke if i was born blonde... not to mention... i know many blondes, and their not dumb either... annoys me. when i'm joking with people or cause i'm hyper people automatically assume " typical air head girl"... and i've only been called an air head once... which resulted in punching the guy in the stomach totally offguard and getting a good loss of breath in him. i didnt even kno who he was... the nerve to say that to me! grrr >:| (<- a deformed mad smilie lol)

dont worrie, b happie!!!!
it's all good (...i suppose)

Dont interrupt me when i'm talking to myself!

"Don't worry about the world coming to an end today.
It's already tomorrow in Australia."
~ Charles Schultz

[This message has been edited by CutiePie4eva (edited 01-02-2003).]

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I'm fairly androgynous and fit into neither gender box. I'll have my masculine and feminine days, somedays I feel more girly than guy-y and others vice versa. I dress pretty boyish always, baggy guys clothing and the works. My hair is a "boy cut". I get called "he" "him" and "sir" a lot.

I hate that gender is over-simplified into what genitalia you happen to have. Situations where gender seems to be a big issue are really uncomfortable for me (like, if I'm meeting someone for the first time and they make a comment like, "Oh, now you are a fine young man" they'll be informed of my REAL gender and they'll avoid eye contact for the next few minutes). I especcially hate forms where you have to check either the male or female box.

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*HUGS* for Milke
I am definitely part geek-guy and a mish mash of other things. But most of my friends ARE boys, and they Are geeks. However, they do value my input as the "emotion-comprehending" female. So.....I'm definitely not all girl. And I don't want to be.

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