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I have a pretty embarrassing problem with my pants. I have to dress up for work every day which usually means, tighter fitted pants and jeans. For some reason no matter what I'm doing (sitting standing, walking, etc) or what I'm wearing (jeans, thin pants, shorts, etc) it makes my genitals hurt! specifically my labia. i spend all day scooching around trying to get comfortable but nothing works. are my labia just too big? whats the problem, how can I fix it (besides buying flowy pants) and is it bad for me in the long term? Its a big problem so any help is appreciated! Thanks! Caitlin
(And why do your pants need to be tight for work?)
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oh, I don't mean tight, I mean fitted. and I do have some loose nice pants but for the most part they are all fitted. It's difficult to find pants nice enough for work that are comfortable or loose. does than answer your question? Even if I could find them I don't have any more funds for clothes, if you know what i mean...
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If you find that this doesn't happen with the looser pants, then obviously, the pants you're wearing where it does happen are too tight.
If you're handy with a needle, you can often let trousers out even just an inch or so, or have them altered at a local tailor or cleaners, and it's usually very reasonable to have done, far more than buying new pants.
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but its not that they are too tight, most of the time they are even too big around the waist, its the crotch that hurts me. but I just meant they aren't loose. they aren't too small, though. Is there really nothing (besides alterations in some way) that I can do? Am I the only person this happens to? thanks!
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If the rise on your pants -- the length from the top of them to the crotch -- is too small, it's uncomfortable for everyone. That's not a matter of the size of your labia: it's about the size and proportions of your torso.
So, if you don't want to be uncomfortable, when you buy pants, be sure the rise feels right: sit down in them in the dressing room, make sure they're not bisecting your crotch when you sit down.
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your fashion sense might hate me for saying this, but your crotch will thank me: shop in the Misses section of the department store. abandon Juniors' sizes entirely.
Juniors' fashions are cut trendy and all, but pants in that section will have a lower-rise and snugger fit.
Misses' fashions are targeted to an older crowd, so you can get work-appropriate trousers with a decent rise (high enough without going clear up to your chest like ol' lady pants) and better fit.
I speak from experience. I went from buying most of my clothes at Hot Topic to shopping at Ann Taylor. Accumulating an office-appropriate wardrobe was difficult for me, but I found pants that fit nicely and look sharp.
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Thanks for your advice (I don't shop in Juniors but I understand). I wore loose pants today (wide leg, stretch material, big in the waist band, long in the crotch) but I still felt sore. Its mostly when I cross my legs or even just put them together (I have to spread 'em to make it feel better) Is there something else that could be making me sore? And now that I am home and sitting in pajamas its still sore. I'm getting worried! Thank you for putting up with me!
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Are you wearing underpants that have a seam someplace that might cause a problem? If you're wearing thongs or panties that have big edgings or seams that run across, you might be having some irritation from those. You might try some looser panties that don't have seams and see if that helps.
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also thought about that but I don't believe thats a problem with my underwear. besides I've worn the same stlye of underwear for a couple of years now. Could it somehow be a symptom of a UTI? I've had them before and never had this symptom but is that a possibility?
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Wow, I have a really similar issue! I volunteer and have to wear "nice" pants too. I was wearing some a couple days ago and it hurt really badly. And then today I wore them again and had the same problem, and have noticed that in between wearing htese pants it hurt too... I think the pants hurt me somehow the first day and it's hurt since! Maybe you have a similar thing going on and that's why it still hurts? Anyways, on my "lack of income", I can't afford new pants, so I'm trying to wear them only if I know that I don't have to wear them too long, and also trying to wear others more often until I can save enough for new ones. Good luck!
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A UTI won't cause labial pain: but some other sorts of infections can, so by all means, if you're not up-to-date with your annual GYN exams, this would be a smart step to take.
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