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My GF and I recently started having vaginal sex using condoms. We're in a long term (>1 year), monogamous relationship and have had clean STD tests, so our STI risk is low. We had a small scare after a condom leaked and are trying to find other forms of birth control. We'd like to both reduce our risk and avoid discomfort that occurs when condoms pull on hair on the penis shaft.

If we use a combo or mini-pill as the first type of BC, are there other effective secondary forms of BC besides a condom that will lower our pregnancy risk? We have A LOT of sex, if we aren't using condoms will large amounts of ejaculate change the chemistry in her vagina? With a diaphragm is there a required amount of time you should have it out to reduce the risk of infection?

Also, my GF is on her parent's insurance. Although it wouldn't be the end of the world, we'd like to avoid having her parents know we're having sex. If she gets on a physician prescribed form of BC will that show up on her parents' insurance bill or is that information confidential? How could we find this out?

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Hi Bob, and welcome to the boards.

To find out more about all the different methods of birth control, you and your girlfriend could start here: Birth Control Bingo! You can find links there to our individual pages, including for cervical barriers like the diaphragm. We have links at the bottom of that page to more detailed information on other sites, too.

The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With a Second Method
is a summary of the different possible combinations of methods.

Ejaculate does temporarily change the pH balance of the vagina. Most people don't have any health issues because of that.

The right people to ask about the insurance issue would be the insurance company themself. Your girlfriend can contact them and ask how the billing works and exactly what will show up. She can also consider whether it's an option for her to tell her parents and if that might be a better option for her than trying to keep it secret.

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Thanks Redskies! I went through both pages, they have been helpful. I could not find any information on how long a diaphragm can stay in or whether it needs to be out a certain number of hours per day. Is there somewhere else I can look?

Also, are there recommended brands of spermicidal lube in the US? I've looked but haven't been able to find much.

Thank you!

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Planned Parenthood has a good overview of using a diaphragm right here:

I'm not familiar with brands of spermicidal lube in the United States, but you can always ask a pharmacist or healthcare provider for their recommendations.

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With diaphragms, you can put them in at most two hours before intercourse, and they MUST stay in for 6-8 hours afterward in order to be effective (so that's about 10 hours max of having one in).

In terms of which spermicide is the best, that depends on your preferences. If you want one that's effective immediately, then jelly is definitely the way to go. And, your choices might be limited but what you can get at the pharmacy.

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