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FilmStudent
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Hello,

I'm just asking a question about keeping a condom on, even though my erection may come and go slightly.

My girlfriend and I have recently been trying to have sex. It takes me a fairly long time to orgasm and I find during any sexual activity, my erection may soften. It doesn't go completely soft, but half mast. If we are doing something for thirty minutes, about one minute thirty seconds may be spent softer, it s almost as if my penis has adverts included lol.

I think I know what causes this. Sometimes it is an uncomfortable position, other times I just get distracted and remember some coursework I need to do. Not a great thing to think about during sex I know, but I can't help it.

Anyway, this is fine when we are 69ing or I'm receiving a hand-job, but when we have sex it is a disaster. We have only tried twice, the first time I softened, the condom started to slip off and I didn't have a replacement. Second time I had a box of condoms, but after going through three I decided that it wasn't worth it.

Since then I have been too afraid to try penetrative sex with her, but really want to. Is there anyway around this, either to keep the condom on, or to maintain my erection without downtime?

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Heather
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Okay, so first of all,what I would say is that maintaining an erection for a half hour solidly - no pun intended, I swear - is something most people's bodies won't do, period. So what is happening here is just plain old reality for most folks.

So, really, having extra condoms around, and kind of picking activities and which ones you are doing when that make room for the fact that most bodies will not do this is really the way to go.

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