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printemps
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I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, he was my first, and even though I'm on the pill, I still ask him to use a condom because I just can't get over my fear of getting pregnant. I take my pill every day at 1 p.m., I'm very regular on that. My boyfriend has not pressured me into anything, but I really want to do it without a condom too...What do i do? How can I stop thinking that if he ejaculates in me I'll get pregnant..SHould I ask him to come out before he ejaculates to minimise the risk? But I love the moment where he stays in after orgasming. Should I just do it and home i'm not in that 0.1%? What if I am...
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Heather
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In a situation like this, it's something where you want to weight the risk-to-benefit ratio.

For sure, pregnancy is less likely when a second method, like a condom is used. But I think the biggest question is this: do you expect that going without will make you feel better than you do about all of this now or worse? If you think it'll mean more anxiety for you, that's obviously no fun, and also hampers sexual enjoyment. If, on the other hand, you feel like you can be okay with a somewhat increased pregnancy risk and that you'll enjoy going without enough that the anxiety will be minimal, then that's something else.

Get what I mean?

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printemps
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Yes, I do get what you mean. The thing is, I'm not sure I will be comfortable enough as to really enjoy it and not worry...which is such a shame. I want to do it without a condom, he wants it too, and he will, at some point, think I'm totally irrational. As I said he's not pressuring me but I'm pressuring myself! I should just forget about the small chance of getting pregnant and enjoy it. But I can't [Frown]
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Heather
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You can't right now.

Chances are, at some point in your life, you will, it's just not now. And that's okay. [Smile]

The physical difference a condom makes in enjoyment is slight, all the more so on the end per your body, since the vagina has relatively few sensory nerve endings, and not the kind that are specific to fine touch (vs. pressure). The difference feeling comfortable or not, or worried or not, however, makes in enjoyment is huge.

So, if ditching condoms would have you totally worried, sex would likely feel less good than it does no, not more.

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