Okey dokey. I have a few (stupid) questions about ye ole condoms. I was reading several posts here about them, but I just want to confirm some things. If there was a problem with a condom, like a small hole or tear, would it be ridiculously noticeable? Like, as in, is it possible for there to be tiny hole, and not notice it after putting it on, or after intercourse. Gah, this sounds stupid. I dunno what I'm saying. Also, in one of the posts, people mentioned ways to test it after intercourse, like by filling it with water. Is that a good idea? Is it reasonable, or awkward, or pointless or unreliable? If there had been even a tiny hole, wouldn't it have become larger and noticeable? Do the reservoir tips vary in size? If they are too small, does the semen leak out the bottom when the penis is still erect? What are ways to avoid pregnancies and freaking out about possible pregnancies while using condoms? Why can't I just cut my ovaries out with a spork and a laser? I think that is the real question here.
I would like to use only condoms because I don't want to use hormonal birth control. Is this okay if my boyfriend and I practice putting them on a few times without having sex, and then when we do use them, to check before and after for anything, and if something goes wrong, like it slips off or tears, to use EC?
-------------------- Make it funky! -James Brown Posts: 15 | From: Jupiter | Registered: Apr 2007
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Honestly, I just don't see any reason to be filling condoms up with water every time, and if you're that concerned, I think it'd be a lot more reliable, and considerably less buzzkill to just add a secondary non-hormonal method, Narwhals.
Really, when condoms have a tear, you do notice. Sure, every great now and then, it will happen that there is a manufacturer flaw, or some teeny-tiny hole you can't see (but likely, you wouldn't with the water deal, either). But in order for pregnancy to happen from that,considerable sperm would have to get through that tiny opening AND the timing would have to be just right to become pregnant. Not a likely scenario.
Really, most condom failure happens due to misuse, and if we factor in using condoms without using extra lube, we can say almost all of it happens because of improper use. It's a great idea to try using condoms a few practice times first, and by all means, in the case of a failure, go for the EC.
But you also have other options, like adding a second non-hormonal method and/or just leaving intercourse off the table for a while more, still. One can have a completely full sexual life without it, just like one can have a completely full sexual life without, say, vaginal fisting, or male-receptive anal sex. If something has you so panicked and so stressed, there's just kinda not a lot of sense in doing it.
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When a person is tense or nervous, sex can be not only less enjoyable, but more prone to condom failure, since safe sex relies on natural lubrication and dryness can lead to a condom breaking. What I'm trying to say is that by worrying about the condom having a manufacturing defect might actually be more dangerous than having sex with a defective condom. As was noted above, most condom failure comes from human error, so I would relax and enjoy if you can. If you can't enjoy it without worrying, time to step back and ask yourself what's preventing you from doing that ..
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