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ravengirl22090
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Okay I'm supposed to get on birth control soon, but i have some fears...how do you know if it doesn't work? My friend said you still need to use a condom, because there's still a chance you can get pregnant, but how much of a chance? I'm a little scared, because I don't have sex often with my boyfriend, but when we do, he constantly complains he can't feel anything with a condom so I'm getting on birth control so we don't have to use one. But, I'm afraid, because we also have trouble getting the condoms and I'm worried we won't take the right precautions, even though we've been really safe, I feel we might get lazy if I'm birth control. So what I need to know is how do you know it works (like my friend got pregnant while she was on birth control because it didn't work) and how effective is it (do you nee dto use a condom)? If so.....what are other things you could use other than a condom that would help?
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Heather
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First of all, until you and your boyfriend have BOTH:
- been monogamous (only with each other) for six months AND
- used latex barriers (condoms) for at least vaginal, oral and/or anal sex, AND
- EACH had at least TWO full STI screens with negative results each?

It's not SAFE or smart to have sex without condoms. This is the reality of the world we live in, and your boyfriend needs to deal with that. There are lots of ways to have condoms provide almost exactly as much sensation as without: using very thin condoms, using lubricant inside and outside the condom, finding a condom style and cut which fits him best.

If you, after all of that, still decide to add the pill, or add it now in the meantime, you'll need to be on it for at least one full cycle before you can be sure it's as effective as it can be. if you take your pills as directed, on time every day, that's not 100% effectiveness, but it's awfully close. If you don't take them on time or as directed, they can be ineffective or much less effective. For some folks, that's why they choose, even after safer sex practices, to still use a condom or other backup with the pill, because they're more comfortable using extra protection. Other options for backup after that six month period? You could use female condoms, you could use a dipahragm... talk to your sexual healthcare provider. You'll want to anyway to make sure the pill is the best choice for you.

For instance, if taking a pill on time every day isn't something you feel you can manage, you can talk about the ptach or the ring, or non-hormonal options.

How do you know it works? If you take them on time each day as directed, they work. There's no "proof" to this save not getting pregnant, but nearly all pregnancies while on the pill are due to them not being used properly or consistently.

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