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i am currently in a relationship where my partner and i have decided to become sexually active. however i need to have some prtotection from pregnancy because i have been though that before but had an abortion anyway thats besides the point. i want to know if you have to start taking thepills on the first day of your period? also can a guy just use a condom with agirl eventough she is not on birth control. i just want to know, its my guy's birthday and i would like to go the whole nine yards. in short just give the 411 on stating the pill for the first time please!!!
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The person who needs to tell you how to take YOUR oral contraceptives is your doctor. There are various ways to take them, and various different sorts of pills. And all of that depends on what your doctor decides is best for you. So that is the right person to have that discussion with.

Condoms on their own, used properly, can be excellent birth control.

Lastly, it's generally not a good idea to give sex as a gift. I know it sure sounds nice, but it doesn't tend to work out very well to get into the habit of having partners view it that way, and in addition, couples should discuss sex TOGETHER. One person springing it on another as a "present" doesn't then take into account how that person may feel about it, or if they want to partcipate in that scenario.

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To answer some of your questions:

1) to get the pill or any other method of hormonal birth control (such as the patch, the shot, or the ring, all of which are other options for you), you'll need a medical exam -- it's important to check out your overall health and to discuss which option would be best for you. You can get these kind of exams at planned parenthood clinics, at your current gynecologist, or other sexual health clinics. If you need help finding one in your area, we'd be glad to help.

2) some brands of pills can be started the first day of your period, some are "Sunday start" (meaning you start the Sunday after your period starts), others vary. Your doctor can tell you how you would start taking the pill, or how to use any other birth control method you might choose.

Keep in mind, though, that the pill won't be effective as birth control for at least the first month that you're taking it -- so you'll need to use back-up methods of birth control for that first month.

3) yes, a guy can use just a condom with a girl -- it's also an effective protection against pregnancy and STDs. Since the pill doesn't protect against STDs, it's important to use a method that does, such as having your partner wear a condom. Condoms plus a hormonal method of birth control offer the best level of protection against pregnancy AND STDs.

For more about all of this, check out the Safer Sex FAQ which has links to articles and threads about all kinds of birth control options.


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In short, birth control pills should be taken as prescribed -- when you go to a doctor or clinic to get them, you'll be told when to start taking them, and how long it'll take before they're effective as a contraceptive. It varies from brand to brand, so the only real way to find out the answer to that part of your question is to talk to you your doctor.

Condoms can indeed be used independently of any other form of contraception, and while they do have a 13% failure rate, it's still far better to use a condom than to use nothing at all.

One thing that worries me, though, is that you sound like you've set yourself a deadline for becoming sexually active with your boyfriend. Sex isn't something that should be rushed into, for many reasons. Have looked over our Ready or Not? Readiness Checklist yet? Give yourself some time to think about all of those things, and make sure you have everything you'll need first.

Additionally, take a look at this chart for more information on contraceptive methods: Margaret Sanger’s Disneyland - An easy chart of your birth control options

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Eeeeeeeee! Triple mindmeld!
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