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I'm not really sure where to put this, but I was wondering what people on these boards thought of the movie "the notebook"

personally, I strongly disliked it. Not only was it predictable and the ending just much too cheesy for me, not to mention Noah's magical acquiring of money but I thought it gave a HORRIBLE example of an "ideal" or "romantic" relationship

ideas like : if a girl says no, what she really means is stalk her until she likes you.

and : if you get the chance, always stay with your first love, no matter how many ultimatums he shouts at you, or how unstable your relationship is

or : being in a relationship with someone for 3 or 4 months is enough to know them enough , that you can have no contact with them for 7 years, and in that time havea healthy fulfulling relationship with someone else, see them again for a couple days, fall back in love with them, and marry them.

and : cheating is okay as long as you are really in love with the person you are cheating with

the list goes on...

I guess I was most shocked because when I watched it I had heard so many positive reviews, labels of "the best love story of all time" I mean, I understand it's a movie and it's exaggerated, but in my opinion it's just EXAGGERATING bad ideas.

So many of my friends love this movie, more disconcertingly most of them agree with her decision at the end. It almost just makes me wonder how many people will always think they should have gone with their first love if they still have fond memories or feel a little something for them (which is normal) and mistake this as still being in love with them. Or how many people will now find it even more romantic when men threaten to be with them and such like that...I don't know...I know it's just a movie but it kinda bugs me.

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Blue Koi
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I kind of agree with what you are saying hunnybunny. Although, when I watch movies, I think part of the attraction is the fantastical aspect. I know my girlfriends are really down-to-earth about their relationships, but they still love the movie because it's like watching a fairy tale. You just kind of have to suspend your disbelief.

I think it's a personal preference. While my friends where crying, I was laughing because I thought the situation was quite unrealistic. I still found the movie entertaining.

However, I agree that, because there are so many idealized relationships in our media, it shapes our ideas of what a relationship should be like, whether we know it or not. I watched the movie a long time ago, so I kind of forget what happens, but I can see what you are saying.

"Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions."

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