I want to buy an "age-appropriate" sex-ed book for my neices 9th birthday. I grew up in the same type of enviroment as her and had serious misconceptions about sex, gender, and other "taboo" things. I do not want her to grow up misinformed. Some of the stuff she's been saying worries me lately because it shows a serious misconception of sex sometimes is deragatory to females.
I was considering buying her It's so amazing by Robie Harris.
However, since she is not my child I want to be respectful to her mothers wishes. Her mom, my sister is a conservative christian. If I do buy the book for my neice I will consult her mother first, but I'm not sure what she would think.
I guess, my question is what should I do? Would I be acting out of place to ask her mother if she thought the book would be okay for her daughter? Being her aunt how much responsiblity to I have to try to change her misconceptions? Am I totally out of line wanting to get her the book, or is it something I should do?
To be honest, while I applaud you wanting your niece to be sexually informed, unfortunately at the end of the day, her mother may not want her to be.
And since the child is only 9 years old, her mother's wishes generally overrule most other people's, except in extra ordinary circumstances.
Therefore, I'd advise you to talk to your sister about it first, before you give her the book. For the sake of your relationship with your sister it may be the best thing. If you gave the kid the book without consultation she may just take the book of the child and then blow up at you over it.
At least if you talk it over with her you might be able to convince her about it.
I can't really advise on books suitable for a 9 year old for sex ed. I know I read one called Let's Talk About Sex when I was about 11 or so. I'll try and find it online for you.
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