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roziline
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I've always been interested in boks and short stories so i was on the internet and i discovered this thing where people talk about sex like a sory. if you don't know its called erotica. Its really great to read on im 13 and its for 18 year olds (at least)

i find it patronising that people look at under18s as "not ready for this material" if anything they should promote the idea of getting to know your body.

anyway, back to my point. I really like erotica. I have to hide it when my mum comes into the room and i feel quite guilty because i don't like lying to her. should i stop?

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You might find it patronizing, but the truth of the matter is that the great majority of erotica is meant to be entertainment, not education, and it is written (most of it, not all) intended for adults. That isn't just about the law, it's about ethics.

(I say this having edited it as my job for years now).

It's NOT a good way to learn about sexuality or your body as you're stating, because it's based in fantasy, not reality. That isn't to say there's a thing wrong with sexual fantasy, because there is not, but it shouldn't be mistaken for sexual education, and more than we'd say war/action movies are a good way to discover what war is really like.

For the record, erotica is not so much "talking about sex like a story," but is, most simply defined, simply creative material which intends to sexually arouse the reader. Also for the record, it isn't legal to procure when it is clearly stated to be for above a certain age, so do be aware that by dismissing those warnings, you are not engaging in legal activity.

Sounds like you know that, which may be part of why you feel you should hide it. Chances are if your mmother discovered you engaging in it, and dismissing those warnings, you may find yourself with suddenly limmited internet access at home, which would not be totally in appropriate.

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so do u reckon i should stop reading it?

1. its illegal
2. i mite get in trouble

i guess i shud. thanks for ur help

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You know, the thing is, there are libraries.

It's not illegal to read books, for the most part, and a lot of literature at the library is actually very erotic.

Pulling smut off the net is illegal at your age and yes, will likely get you into trouble. Going to the library and picking up some books that are a LITTLE more age-appropriate and still have some erotic or sexual themes is a much better idea, IMO. To boot, when given material is more relevant to your own life and age, it can be a lot more interesting.

For instance, check out some Francesca Lia Block or Judy Blume or grab the classics. Even as a woman who has edited and published piles of modern erotica, quite frankly, I'm still of the mind that the bronte sisters often did it better than anyone. Grab a copy of Jane Eyre or Wuthering Heights.

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cool. ill be sure to check them out. I asked my mum about the erotic side of a book and she told me that when an author desribes a heavy loving relationship it can be classed as erotic. is she rite or duz it have to include sex. im not quite sure.
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Calling something "erotic" really just means that it's sexually arousing - a "turn-on". And lots of things can be sexy, or described in a sexy way.

So if a loving relationship (or anything else) is described in an arousing way, that could certainly be called "erotic", even if there isn't any explicit sex in the description.


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thankies! i get it now . i was a little bit confused
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Moving to Sexual Literacy.
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