My favourite non-standard TV channel, the French-German channel arte - the one that also brought "private penii" a while back, had a theme night last Thursday called "Boys & girls - do they live on the same planet?/ My First time - teens and sex".
The title is misleading, really, this wasn't all about first times, this was about teens and sex in general.
The night started off with a documentary called "Quands les garcons parlent sexe" ("When boys talk sex" - excuse me, french speaking folks, if this was wrong) by Nicolas Pascariello.
A discussion round with people as diverse as a french porn actress, a macho guy from German Big Brother, an AIDS educator, a catholic sex ed woman (who was terrible and almost made me throw up) etc. After that followed "Desirs de filles" ("What girls want") by Sophie Jeaneau.
These two docus really were the highlight of the evening. The format was similar, they each gave portratis (through interviews) of 7 young women and men, bi, straight or gay from Germany and France, all in their late teens or early twenties.
They discussed relationships, and love, emotions, body issues and their first times.
A big issue in the guy docu were the tricks those guys had with girls (apparently, France has a problem with gang rapes of drunk girls, and one guy described how that worked that you got a girl to consent to that) and what being sexual means to them.
I was most impressed by one of the german guys, he seemed very honest and talked abotu his weaknesses and fears and hence seemed the most real.
The girl docu showed - with one exception - girls almost straight out of Scarleteen. Lovely. We all could have been in it, too.
After that docu, another discussion round followed, that really wasn't too enlightened. The highlight (something I bitched about with some co-volunteers at PP the next day) was the sex educator telling everyone that yes, having multiple partners was good. She was then asked what she would think if her daughter had multiple partners. To which that person just replied that her daughter wouldn't want that in the first place. Because that would be emotionally unfulfilling. Ick. Talk about empty talking really. That person obviously hadn't grasped that the best decision for someone is the one (s)he makes by him/herself without outside pressures.
Anyway. In all, despite the pretty useless discussion rounds, this was a delightful, interesting evening, and in case you ever happen to see these two docus somewhere in the papers (I assume our lovely Canadian Scarleteeners would prolly be most likely to see a french documentary, me thinks), make sure you watch them.
~spanking new Scarleteen Sexpert~
"We must become the change we want to see."
[This message has been edited by Alaska (edited 06-17-2001).]