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Hey, So my girlfriend and I had sex for the first time recently and we've been using condoms every time, but just about every time I've been unable to feel anything, not even a feeling of warmth or anything.

I've heard of a lot of girls that have this problem but I haven't heard of many guys having it. Is this normal? I don't have similar problems with manual or oral so I'm kind of worried about it. Any advice would be helpful.

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It's possible that a different style of condom will help with sensation a bit; we have a good article talking about different kinds of condoms here: Your Map to the Condom Aisle

It could also be that the sensations of intercourse just aren't your thing, and if that's the case, that's totally fine. It sounds like there are types of sex you do enjoy and have good sensation with, so if intercourse just doesn't feel that great to you, it might be a good idea to set it aside for a while and focus on what does.

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Thank you for the help!
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Btw, do you find that you have the same lack of warmth when using a condom for oral sex?

If so, part of this may be a condom issue: non-latex condoms tend to conduct heat better.

But like Mo, said, maybe this just is not your thing. You are for sure not the only person in the world with a penis for whom that is true, if it is true, and nothing close to the first person who has come here to us for whom that is the case. There's no kind of sex everybody likes, including intercourse: what people like can vary quite a bit, and there is also no kind of sex anyone HAS to like. We get to be who we are, with the bodies we have. [Smile]

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