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unknoshi
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i have like lump or bump near my vagina and thigh area? i'm extremely afraid of stds. could be genital herpes? i didn't find out until earlier when i went to the restroom and saw that i had a lump. i don't think it hurts. maybe a little but not a lot. i'm really scared what could it be? haven't had sex since last year in about august? safe with condom. i don't know what it is really scared out of my mind [Frown]
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unknoshi
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oh and i'm on my period, could it be functional cyst? i've never had it before but i just got it today.
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Heather
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Again, per your other post, the right person to ask about this is a healthcare provider. No one who cannot examine you can even guess at what a given lump or bump might be, and a guess does not do anything for anyone anyway. What you need is someone to examine you and tell you what is going on and if it is a health concern you need to manage or not.

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unknoshi
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Because I'm too young and too scared and my parents would kill me/disown me I can't do it sorry

Its actually become pimple like and it hurts a little

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Karybu
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If you are that concerned about your parents' response to you seeking healthcare, it is possible to see a doctor without their knowledge. Heather offered in your other thread to help you find a clinic: that is still something we can help you with.

I know seeing a doctor can be scary, but it's really the best thing to do in situations like this.

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unknoshi
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I also don't have any money. How can I do that?
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We could look to see if there are any low-cost clinics in your area, and you could call them and ask about prices of their services or if they offer any free services.

In terms of your parents, though, do you feel like you could just say you need to go to the doctor because you're not feeling well? Do you get annual exams ever? I'm wondering if there is a way you would be able to get in to see a doctor without discussing the specifics of what you're asking about with them.

A doctor is bound by confidentiality and won't reveal test results to your parents. Sometimes if insurance is billed for specific procedures your parents might see that on their statement, but again you could call a clinic and ask how they handle that.

If you do have an ongoing issue, it's really best to get it examined and treated as soon as possible. Does any of what I mentioned here sound doable?

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unknoshi
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The thing is that I guess my parents like to know everything about me so if I go to the doctor they tend to follow me like when I'm sitting with the doctor getting checked out of if the doctor asks any questions they'll sit there with me

But since they are your parents shouldn't they know about you?

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Heather
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Actually, once someone is an adolescent, healthcare providers should be asking parents to leave the room during exams, or at least asking you what your preference is.

If they are not, then you can either ask your parents or healthcare provider for that privacy yourself, or, if you do not feel able to assert yourself in that way, can just quietly ask the receptionist to put a note on your file asking parents to wait in the waiting room during your exams.

[ 02-24-2014, 09:09 AM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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I want to also make sure that in conversations where someone is saying things like that their parents will kill them or disown them, we are all in touch with reality.

If and when either of those things are for real, we need to then talk about connecting someone with social services to address ongoing or possible abuse, and also talk with a user about not making choices that put them at risk of death, injury or homelessness.

If and when that is not for real, we need to ask users to both have the sensitivity to recognize that talking like that is not cool when it is or has been for real for some others, but also to focus on what IS real, or really may be, so we can address what is actually going on soundly, rather that trying to find what is real in someone's hyperbole.

I obviously cannot know where you are on this spectrum unless you tell me, but if you cannot earnestly get healthcare you need because of a real possibility of your parents doing you harm or kicking you out, we need to know that is what the real deal is so we can help you figure out safe choices for yourself all around.

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