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So it has been about 10 months since I last posted on here. I am back because my problem has not gotten better and I'm not quite sure what to do.

Basically, my problems are that 1) I have very intense burning at the entrance of my vagina, regardless of the amount of lubrication, type of condom etc. during any type of sex (including intercourse or using a vibrator) 2) I have absolutely no interest in sex anymore because it has hurt so much in the past, and it is not enjoyable at all.

I am 21 now, have had the same partner for 3 years and I have no STI's. I am still using NuvaRing. Since my last post, I went to see my doctor. When I told her about this issue she prescribed me with premarin estrogen cream to put inside my vagina as she said that the lining of my vagina may be thinning due to use of birth control. This cream lessens the burning slightly, but not by much and sex is still very uncomfortable even if I use this cream daily.

My partner is extremely understanding about this, but it has been going on for over 2 years now and I feel that it is affecting our relationship a bit. Mostly though, it is affecting my self-esteem and I do not feel that this is "normal" for someone to have to go through.

I'm not sure what advice you can give, but I'm feeling quite helpless about this whole situation. I would appreciate any suggestions.

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Hi Ysabel,

This does sound really frustrating. Did you ever check back in with your doctor and let her know that the estrogen only worked a little bit? She may have some other ideas of things to try.

One thought I had is that sex can encompass a lot of things; you can be sexual with someone without involving your genitals if you want to just take a break from that for a while. Are there things you and your partner enjoy that would provide sexual intimacy while avoiding the activities that cause you pain? Maybe that's something the two of you could talk about so that you don't feel like you have to avoid physical intimacy altogether until this gets sorted out.

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