Hi. I'm kind of shy about posting on this forum haha, but you all seem really friendly and helpful, so here goes. I'm a female, I'm a young teenager. I've never really consistently masturbated, if that makes sense... But I've been wanting to start. So today, I filled the bathtub, lied down, and tried it. I could feel what I was doing and that felt nice, but I wasn't, like, getting pleasure from it, if that makes sense. I definitely wasn't experiencing an orgasm or anything... No matter what I did, the speed, the pressure, nothing really happened... And so I'm not quite sure what to do, what I'm doing wrong. Anyone have any advice? Thanks a bunch!
EDIT: Oh, also... I feel weird thinking about specific people I actually know of when I masturbate...Like, I just feel wrong doing it. So, if you don't want to think of someone you know personally or some sort of person in the public eye, who or what do you think of...? I kind of just put intimate images into my head, haha. Sorry I sound so awkward. I'm really new to discussing these things and my school district has awful sex ed.
Were you already feeling aroused when you decided to masturbate today? Some folks can be feeling just "meh" on the arousal scale but can increase that feeling by masturbating, but for other people masturbation might not feel that great unless they're already feeling aroused before they start. So if that's how it is for you, you might have more luck waiting until you do feel a strong sense of arousal and masturbating then.
In terms of what to think about... some people don't necessarily picture a certain person at all when they masturbate. They might just think about situations or feelings, or invent elaborate stories with made-up people, or read stories they find arousing. Most likely, as time goes on and you experiment more, you'll find something that works for you.
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